What's the first impression when you start practicing negotiation?

Some people find our practice Community by chance.

Others through word of mouth.

What is your first impression when you start practicing negotiation?

At first, new members usually are surprised that this stuff actually works.

And it works like magic. Every time and very consistently.

It’s not a secret that the best communicators train to speak with power.

But, for some reason, for many people, it’s unexpected that saying words in a certain way may have a significant impact.

So the first reaction is a “Wow! That’s cool! It really works!”

Then, they realize the power of the simplest tools like labels, mirrors, and nurturing silence.

After each practice, we give each other feedback, and usually, those who practice for the first time say:

“Oh, that’s powerful. These labels are so powerful. This silence is so loud. I need to do it more.”

True story! Just recently a new member said it to me.

Then they are getting curious - what else is available? What other tools are there that I don’t know?

There are 30 more?

Oh, there are about 50 more?

How do they work?

How can I apply them?

So they get excited about putting their own words in a powerful way and enjoying the first results.

It’s pretty much like building muscles. The first results could cause a dramatic overall improvement in shape and strength.

Also, a common thing is realizing that getting the upper hand in conversation is easier than you may think.

Experienced leaders know how to do it. And they do it all the time.

They lead the conversations.

Why don’t we all know that?

I guess we just aren't curious enough to learn about it.

What’s the outcome?

We’re being led without realizing it.

Finally, after one of two practice sessions, new practitioners start to apply their new skills on their own: at home, at work, and in other social settings, like in a coffee shop, at the market, etc.

They become astonished by the results.

They are like, “Wow! I can’t believe I got it for free. I can’t believe I got a promotion. I improved my relationships with my children. I got a 30% discount. I got a free upgrade. My boss chose me for this exciting project. I didn’t expect it would be that good!”

From then, they actively look for new opportunities to improve relationships, get better deals, and re-negotiate better agreements.

If you just watch Chris Voss’s Masterclass or read his book, believe me, nothing will happen.

Why?

Because you have zero repetitions.

You’ll forget to use these things when it matters the most–when emotions go strong and stakes are high.

But if you do your reps, these powerful tools become your habits.

Also, you will start noticing when others use them.

The others may use them all the time.

Because universities and business schools actively train hundreds of people to use these tools every semester.

The cost for an 8-week online program is $2,000 or more.

I doubt it’s effective because there’s no feedback on how these tools are received and applied by the students.

These programs typically don’t have a coach to observe your delivery and tell you what you do right or wrong.

Nevertheless, many people take these programs to up their negotiation game.

And if you’re not, you may wonder,

“Why I’m not getting promoted?

Why I’m not getting good deals?

Why I’m not getting more autonomy?

Why my boss doesn’t trust me?

Why they don’t see a value in my approach?”

The answer is - you’re simply out-negotiated by people who are practicing it.

Not practicing advanced communication skills is similar to not going to a gym.

You are OK in the absence of the competition, but you can't win against a trained person.

Trained people will easily outperform you.

But so many things depend on your communication!

Your reputation, your career, your compensation, your leadership position, your opportunities, your financial success, your relationships with your family, your business success, the quality of your network, your friends, and other things.

I simply don’t see how so many benefits could be missed just because you don’t know how to ask and get an agreement.

Because getting habits of advanced communication is like changing a Honda Civic to a Formula 1 race car.

It’s like changing a calculator to a modern computer with the latest software.

Yes, you can do a simple job, but you won’t win the race.

You’ll lose deals and money on the table.

So it’s your choice.

You are the one to decide what kind of car you’d like to drive on your life’s race track.

Our practice Community is growing, and we’ll keep practicing.

Week after week.

Join when you’re ready.

Here's the link to the Community:

https://www.businessrelationshipscoach.com/npc